Where Life Blossoms

Recently, I feel like my faith in humanity has been hanging on by threads. And you probably read what I recently wrote about it...

It may just be the weather... This time of year in a Northern climate can be a little trying.

It's probably a combination of things. I'm probably reading too many sensationalized headlines. The political milieu certainly isn't helping. The recent massive earthquakes in Haiti and Chile were deeply disturbing, yet humbling. Reminding me how fortunate I am. That I have so much to be grateful for... I could do with a bit of a news fast though.

But, anyway... I've been in a bit of a funk that I'm having trouble shaking.

I will. Emotions are seasons and will pass. And anger, hope, despair, unabated happiness, it all passes. It just takes me some discipline and grace to ride those waves. To let happiness flow like a free river. And to cradle anger or despair like an infant. That either has its place and right just as happiness does, but I should be more gentle with them... and with myself during times like this.

So, while I've been contemplating my place in the world... Wondering why and what and IF it all matters, I received a message the other day from an old friend that I haven't spoken with in probably at least 10 years, probably more like 14 or 15. It hasn't been intentionally that long... It's just that the years go by so damn fast...

She wrote, "Friday my 8 year old was hit in a cross walk by a Hummer. I have been in the worst state of my life, as we have gone through this. She will be okay, three breaks in her pelvis, one in her foot. I've never been so scared. She is in terrible pain however, using a wheelchair and will be moving to a walker when she can. I have missed you old friend and as I have walked this path this weekend I have felt the need to cry on your shoulder as somehow I know that the depth of our friendship has been a source of soul strenghtening for me. I could use some strength, I know the lady that hit her (small town).

"We are at the Hospital right now but we will be leaving it today as she doesn't need iv's anymore. We all need to go home. What a mess I don't even know if this all makes sense. Sorry if I don't make sense as I write to you but hopefully a little of it does. I haven't had much sleep. I am going to try to catch a nap now. Thank you for being my friend, Thank you for the times you have held my hand listened to my words, given me a hug, I love you friend."

That reminded me.

That to live for one another, is where life blossoms, where it moves beyond merely breathing, into the magical realm of love. And there really isn't anything else.

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Happy Valentine's Day, Bishes

I know that this says, "Happy Birfday Doris" at the end of it, but it's the best recording I could find of her version of "It's Magic".

So, I know it's a commercially produced Holiday and I carry a fair amount of disdain for it. The pressure, the feeling of exclusion, the whole rah, rah, siss-boom-ba, rip-off-your-panties, tear-off-your-bra about it. Will and I don't really celebrate it. I mean, yes... One of us usually gets his panties ripped off and the other usually gets a bra torn, but romance and passion aside, it's still kind of a good reminder to tell those you love, that you love them, no? And in elementary school, we ALL gave one another Valentine's notes, even to those we didn't really care for. It was about just acknowledging each other.

And really, isn't that what it's ALL about?

So, while friendship isn't always "Magic". It is MOST of the time; with Will, our dogs and crazy birds, our family and friends. And that's what sustains me. So, while I don't know many of you out there. We're kindred spirits of a sort, you and I. Somewhere through the rubble of this blog, you get me, and through your visits, I get you. And maybe it reminds us we're not alone. And that's a little bit of magic right there.


(Thank you for this great Valentine's Day pic, Bubba!)

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Here

Here I am in the garden laughing
an old woman with heavy breasts
and a nicely mapped face

how did this happen
well that's who I wanted to be

at last... a woman
in the old style... sitting
stout thighs apart under
a big skirt... grandchild sliding
on... off my lap... a pleasant
summer perspiration

that's my old man across the yard
he's talking to the meter reader
he's telling him the world's sad story
how electricity is oil or uranium
and so forth... I tell my grandson
run over to your grandpa... ask him
to sit beside me for a minute... I
am suddenly exhausted by my desire
to kiss his sweet explaining lips


~ Grace Paley

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Celebrating Diversity

Celebrating all diversity...

So, this is pretty funny, but I have to say that their voices are actually really beautiful. And their harmony keen. And by the end, well... it was rather quite poignant.

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It's What Everybody Wants

We have fallen down again tonight
In this world it's hard to get it right
Trying to make your heart fit like a glove
What it needs is love, love, love

Everybody, everybody wants to love
Everybody, everybody wants be to loved

Happy is the heart that still feels pain
Darkness drains and light will come again
Swing open your chest and let it in
Just let the love, love, love begin...

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Philip's Fight For Freedom

"I was pretty surprised to be asked a question like that. It made no sense to me. And then finally I asked her, 'What do you think I fought for over on Omaha Beach?'"

Thank you, Dor, over at Mom Goes Green, for this special contribution.

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Not To Dwell, But To Remember...

I know I tend to rant and rave occasionally. Okay, okay, maybe a little more than "occasionally".

But, Michelle Obama's family story is right on about what I love about the American possibility, the American experience, the American DREAM.

While much of the world will waste no time in trying to push someone down, they can't be kept down forever. So, it'd be nice if more of us tried lifting one another up more often than not. And then, maybe we'd really get somewhere... together.

IMAGINE the possibilities...

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How The Blue Birds Do

So, I've been fortunate enough to be staying with our very good friends, Jim and Claudette, here in Santa Barbara for the past 5 1/2 weeks. They're so generous and easy to be around. We've become family. They keep wanting to send for Will (and plan on sending him a ransom note for me) and just have us move in. We'd be so lucky.

Well, speaking of moving in, with Spring here, outside of their Kitchen windows, Claudette has a collection of bird houses. And quite a few of them are occupied by


Western Blue Birds.

And a few weeks ago, we heard the first signs of


life, their chicks. Little Western Blue Bird babies... Babies? BABIES?? IT'S A BAYBAY! A BAYBAY! GET. IN. ME. BELLY!!!

They're rather mesmerizing to watch, the flashes of Indigo blue here and there, swooping in and building their nests inside the little cottages, condos and townhouses. And then, bringing home all the groceries and taking care of their families.

They're so busy working, taking care of what they gave life to. It's their sole purpose. They're not distracted by television, or socially constructed angst, or by bullshit gossip about the Sparrows down the street. They're just focused on taking care of their own business... They're own lives. And soon, they'll be coaxing their contributions to the World out of those little boxes and encouraging them


to fly.

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